Author name: Benjamin Fry

Life happens. And it can happen very suddenly. When events carry with them even a tiny echo of something we haven’t yet finished reacting to, they become triggers. As triggers, they arrive at our nervous system and hit our baggage. This typically sets off a reaction in us, which can paradoxically sometimes be to have […]

In freeing ourselves from a dysregulated nervous system, an important step is learning how to reframe our experiences. We need to do this so that we are no longer subject to learned ways of behaviour that negatively impact our lives and the relationships we have with others. The goal is to go from the diagram

The dawn of self-awareness created a dysregulated nervous system in humans. All of our problems followed, like a chain of cascading dominoes. We have seen the effects it has on our health, our behaviour, our relationships, our personalities, our society and even our planet. And the inevitable question we must all ask ourselves is, how

If you took a perfect world and then changed one species so that it became self-aware, like the computers did in The Matrix or in The Terminator, what would happen next? The following is likely. • That species starts to function differently. This new self-awareness creates more information and this information becomes a new way

You may have heard of dissociation. It describes how we feel when we are not quite all there. You might have experienced it while driving somewhere, then on reflection not really remembering anything much of the journey. Where were you then, during that journey? We can become dissociated when the different parts of our brain

As we develop from children to teenagers to adults, we carry each stage with us into the next. We all have a child, teenager, and adult within us, influencing our behaviour. The child is the part of us that seeks comfort and looks to a caregiver or saviour to rescue us from difficulties, and is

Our brain is not just one thing at all. Our brain is made up of many different parts; the most obvious different parts being the reptile brain, the mammal brain and the newly-developed human brain. We also all have within us a child, teen, and adult part, all of which have an influence over our

Most people can relate to the idea that there is a part of them that wants to behave like a baby sometimes; to give up and to be looked after. It’s that part of us that pulls the duvet over our head when the alarm goes off. Or the vulnerable side of us that affectionately

Even when a child’s early relationships weren’t straightforward or particularly healthy, they still grow up to have another go at forming intimate relationships. However, we tend to end up being the person we learned to be when we were young. The attachment styles that we learn in our early childhood greatly influence the relationships we

Blog #27 Even when a child’s early relationships weren’t straightforward or particularly healthy, they still grow up to have another go at forming intimate relationships. However, we tend to end up being the person we learned to be when we were young. The attachment styles that we learn in our early childhood greatly influence the