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A collection of Benjamin Fry’s writings, illustrations, audio and video.  These are areas covered in his book, The Invisible Lion, but are totally free and accessible to you here.  Resources to guide you through life.

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Building Strong Relationships: How to Express Yourself Proportionally Through Life’s Challenges

Relationships form the foundation of human experience, providing a mirror for our internal worlds and a container for growth and healing. Yet, navigating life’s inevitable challenges within these bonds requires more than good intentions—it calls ...
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Relationships Adrift: How Trauma Can Stifle Communication and How to Build Space for Healthy Conflict

In our closest relationships, communication is often described as the lifeforce that sustains connection, understanding, and intimacy. Yet, for many, trauma can disrupt this vital flow, leaving partners feeling disconnected, misunderstood, or emotionally adrift. Trauma, ...
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How Attachment Styles Influence Relationships: Disorganised

When it comes to human connection, attachment styles shape how we love and relate. Among the four main attachment styles—secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganised—the disorganised attachment style is perhaps the most complex and misunderstood. This ...
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How Attachment Styles Influence Relationships: Avoidant

Attachment theory, developed by John Bowlby in the 1950s, gave us a map of how our early relationships shape the way we connect with others later in life. For people with avoidant attachment, early experiences ...
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Relationships Can Help Heal Trauma, Under the Right Conditions: A Polyvagal Perspective

Trauma can leave deep emotional scars, often affecting how people connect with others. When the nervous system is dysregulated from past trauma, it becomes challenging to form healthy, secure relationships. However, with the right conditions—like ...
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How Attachment Styles Influence Relationships: Anxious Attachment

Attachment theory, introduced by John Bowlby, sheds light on the profound impact that early childhood relationships have on our emotional and psychological development (Bowlby, 1988). Central to this theory is the idea that our earliest ...
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