[lore]

I have always liked shopping but I would say in the past year it has got seriously out of control. I buy things I know I don't really need but convince myself that my life will be so much better if I have that pair of earrings, that book or that perfume for example. I then feel so excited when I have purchased something pretty but it soon wears off and I forget I have got whatever I bought. It is not really big purchases but knick knacks like costume jewellery, books, purses/handbags, magazines, perfume, pyjamas and just this month my slipper obsession has got out of hand. I have bought five pairs!!! I know I don't need five pairs but its like something inside me feels people will love me because of that quirky pair of cherry slippers I found and I just have to have them. All of this makes me feel so ashamed and stupid and shallow but I just cannot stop. Shopping makes me feel so high but then I usually feel rubbish when I get home and my husband just looks at me like I am mad for getting so excited about things. A year ago I was diagnosed with depression and it is only now a year later that I have been reading internet and realising this seriously could be linked with my depression and might not be completely me just being frivolous. I was put on medication for my depression and also sent to counselling. I took the tablets for just over a week and went to one counselling session. I didnt confide in the counsellor about my shopping and I just felt stupid and weak for having to take medication. And that is another problem I have, I just change my mind and give things up. I have lost count of the number of study courses I have started then quit when the going gets tough. I hate my job but cant decide on a career I would like. Shopping is the only thing I am good at - I spent £149 in 10 minutes last night!! I had a huge argument with my Mum earlier this year and she said I act like a child. I cant get that out of my head because I think that aswell and dont want to be this way. Everyone laughs at how ditzy and silly I am with shopping and pink glittery things and I laugh along with them but inside I feel so lonely and cold and in despair. My husband is so good with money. We have the means and a plan to pay off the debt. It is just sticking to it that is the problem. Sometimes a bit of shopping is the only thing that makes me feel happy and sunny even if only for a few minutes.

[Elephants]

lore, on Jul 3 2008, 12:30 PM, said:

I have always liked shopping but I would say in the past year it has got seriously out of control. I buy things I know I don't really need but convince myself that my life will be so much better if I have that pair of earrings, that book or that perfume for example. I then feel so excited when I have purchased something pretty but it soon wears off and I forget I have got whatever I bought. It is not really big purchases but knick knacks like costume jewellery, books, purses/handbags, magazines, perfume, pyjamas and just this month my slipper obsession has got out of hand. I have bought five pairs!!! I know I don't need five pairs but its like something inside me feels people will love me because of that quirky pair of cherry slippers I found and I just have to have them. All of this makes me feel so ashamed and stupid and shallow but I just cannot stop. Shopping makes me feel so high but then I usually feel rubbish when I get home and my husband just looks at me like I am mad for getting so excited about things. A year ago I was diagnosed with depression and it is only now a year later that I have been reading internet and realising this seriously could be linked with my depression and might not be completely me just being frivolous. I was put on medication for my depression and also sent to counselling. I took the tablets for just over a week and went to one counselling session. I didnt confide in the counsellor about my shopping and I just felt stupid and weak for having to take medication. And that is another problem I have, I just change my mind and give things up. I have lost count of the number of study courses I have started then quit when the going gets tough. I hate my job but cant decide on a career I would like. Shopping is the only thing I am good at - I spent £149 in 10 minutes last night!! I had a huge argument with my Mum earlier this year and she said I act like a child. I cant get that out of my head because I think that aswell and dont want to be this way. Everyone laughs at how ditzy and silly I am with shopping and pink glittery things and I laugh along with them but inside I feel so lonely and cold and in despair. My husband is so good with money. We have the means and a plan to pay off the debt. It is just sticking to it that is the problem. Sometimes a bit of shopping is the only thing that makes me feel happy and sunny even if only for a few minutes.

I am sorry to hear about the situation. You should really try to maybe budget and not completely cut yourself off from ever shopping just try to cut it down. I know way easier said than done but maybe read some budgeting articles to see what a good mindset would be.
http://www.moneysavi...Budget-planning
http://www.cccs.co.u...t/persbudg.aspx
Here is another article in case you want to try starting to handle your own finances
http://uk.moneto.eu/financing/personal-loa...ou-are-in-debt/
Just try to remember while buying something that it only is a temporary happiness. Also, it is already a good step that you recognize something needs to change. Just don't underestimate yourself and the ability to change. I know that probably sounds corny but you can do it sweety