[brill]

I am in a relationship and feel very happy in it, or at least I did untill I met my girlfriends mother! She told me that if I dont split up with my girlfriend then I will end up dead! I kno the chances are its all emtpy threats and Im deeply hoping it is but what if they aren't? I know I am an insecure person in relationships and me and my girlfriend have spoken about that but I really believe that if her Mum would get to know me better she would be a much happier person about lettin her Daughter be with me! If she could just understand that I do feel for her Daughter alot and really want to make a go of this relationship! I know I have been stupid in previous relationships and most of the time they have fallen through is because of my insecurities and paranoia but I havn't felt any of them since being with her! What can I do and how can I go about it, I have told her that I do not want to split up with her but the ball is in her court! In a way I am hoping she says she wants 2 stay with me anyway but in a way Im hoping she says she wants to split up for the simple fact I do not want to get inbetween parent and child, I know that is a very strong bond for anyone and I have almost lost it myself! I have depression as it is and this is not helping me get over it as it is causing much more stress than is needed! I am not aloud to get in contact with my girlfriend so even if I was to call it off I couldn't do it but the not knowing what she wants is really eating me up inside! On Monday I felt so low I almost started self harm which I have always promised I wouldn't do! How am I meant to feel better or feel good in a relationship where I don't know what is happening. I may be seeing her behind her mothers back on Friday night but I don't want to do it like that! I just wish her mother could be happy for her as she is happy with me! She told me the night that her Mother told me that she doesn't want to split up with me but what can she do! I have thought about every possibility there can be but I can't come up with a goos enough reason for her mother to like me by just knowing me apart from what I have already said! Even my friends have tried helping me out on this 1 but she is not having any of it! What can I do?

[Benjamin Fry]

I too would need to understand what age you are. It sounds like you are young and therefore may have to accept that you are powerless to change her mother's decision. Usually relationships formed at a young age dissolve on thier own anyway. However that will be little comfort to you at the moment.

Why is your girlfriend's mother so against you? If you need her consent to function as a couple then unless you can get to know her better, you may have little option other than sadly to move on.

[brill]

I have decided to let it go as it is more hassle than it is worth! Her Mum obviously isn't goin to accept that me and her Daughter wants to be in a relationship but if the rumours I have heard are true then I am not surpsrised! Anyway, thanx 4 lettin me get it off my chest!