I need same help. On how to dail with leaving my ex, with two children. Now that I have find same one, he will not get to know him. And help him to understand on how I feel when I was with him. I try to talk to my boyfriend but it is hard to. Because I used to botter things up.
If there is any way I can do this please let me know. Thank you.
Sare Bear
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Posted 29 September 2004 - 02:58 PM
Sometimes when its hard to communicate your emotions face to face it is helpful to write them down. There is a format used for this that is often used in relationshipos, which hopefully allows more communication than arguing.
Roughly speaking it goes like this: you write down something like, ìwhen you do so and so, I feel like such and suchî. You try to find five things to say that are positive and five that are negative. At the end you say ìand I donít need you to change.î The point is to be able to communicate how you feel without being judgmental about another personís behaviour. You can read more about this kind of thing in many books on relationships such as ìMen are from Mars, Women are from Venusî.
Give it a go and tell me how you get on.
Roughly speaking it goes like this: you write down something like, ìwhen you do so and so, I feel like such and suchî. You try to find five things to say that are positive and five that are negative. At the end you say ìand I donít need you to change.î The point is to be able to communicate how you feel without being judgmental about another personís behaviour. You can read more about this kind of thing in many books on relationships such as ìMen are from Mars, Women are from Venusî.
Give it a go and tell me how you get on.
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