help - Benjamin Fry

help I am really not good at anything

#1 What is the sauce?

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Posted 13 September 2004 - 01:48 PM

Hi

I have read some of your replies and have seen they're all good. I hope you can help me. Since high school I have always felt I wasn't good at anything and as I get older I continue to see that, Is there anything I can do?

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Posted 14 September 2004 - 10:02 AM

Wait for Benjamin's reply. He will give you your guidance. We all have our own opinions...but you will have to take some steps toward improving your own opinion of yourself. Best Wishes.

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Posted 14 September 2004 - 12:03 PM

I don't believe you!!! Maybe you do, but I don't. Everybody is good at something, and most people are good at a lot of things. Perhaps you might be good at being irrational, or being argumentative or good at ignoring people. Remember there's a positive side to all the things we are taught are negative. If you can find the positive bit, you can use it in your life for the good. For example, I envy lazy people because I think of them as chilled out, laid back types. Who in your life is being negative about what you can't do? Is it you? If so, stop it! Don't see what I mean? Well, think about when you were a little baby or small child - you were far wiser than you are now because you knew how to love yourself, even though you could do ABSOLUTELY NOTHING. After all, you thought you were the best thing in the universe when you were a baby. Feel that about yourself now! You are a free spirit, and if you really think you can't do much, that's OK too.

#4 Benjamin Fry

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Posted 14 September 2004 - 04:11 PM

This will have been a message that you learned when you were younger. As has been pointed out to you, there is always a positive way to look at any skill set. Youíve chosen the negatives. The question is why?

Can you speculate on where these messages first came from? Was there negativity in the family towards you, or in general? Did you father or mother seem to dislike themselves?

You donít give much away which suggests that you prefer to remain reserved. This may be a defence against being criticised for what you donít think youíre any good at. In that sense you are good at defending yourself. Well done!

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