I was with a guy for 2 years. He was my first love, my first serious relationship, basically the only relationship that I really cared about. Like anyone else we have been through problems, but have overcome them. Six months ago we broke up and he saw someone else for a short period of time. After that he came back to me. We never had the title of being back together,but everything else was like before. I recently explained to him that I wanted more, I want to either be his woman or not. Today he told me that he's talking to a girl from his hometown (they've had sex, he tells her he loves her, etc.) When I asked for an explanation he acted as if it was no big deal, that I was overracting. I'm going crazy because I don't know how to get over him. Everytime I try, he does something that brings me right back to him. I am in DESPERATE need of help at this time. I am becoming depressed, it is affecting my work, my sleep, my eating habits, my attitude. Please give me some advice on what to do.
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how do i cope? depression
#2 Guest_yasmeen_*
Posted 29 July 2004 - 08:09 PM
Hi.
Life is too short to allow another person, who obviously has no respect for you, to hurt you in this way.
If you can clearly recognise that you are becoming depressed and he is clearly the cause of it, then for your own sake, for the sake of your own sanity, keep away from him.
You obviously care deeply about this person, which is why you accept his behaviour and take him back. You allow him to treat as second best, even though you see him as an important part of your life. I can fully understand this. However you have to keep away from him, otherwise it will only be a downward spiral for you and it will become harder and harder to recover from all of this.
If you want to get over him and it is becoming difficult because he keeps coming back into your life then try travelling. Move to a new place for a year. Have new experiences, make new friends. You might even meet someone new who will treat you with the respect that anybody deserves in a relationship.
You cannot allow another person to treat you this way.
Just break away. Take care of yourself.
Yasmeen.
Life is too short to allow another person, who obviously has no respect for you, to hurt you in this way.
If you can clearly recognise that you are becoming depressed and he is clearly the cause of it, then for your own sake, for the sake of your own sanity, keep away from him.
You obviously care deeply about this person, which is why you accept his behaviour and take him back. You allow him to treat as second best, even though you see him as an important part of your life. I can fully understand this. However you have to keep away from him, otherwise it will only be a downward spiral for you and it will become harder and harder to recover from all of this.
If you want to get over him and it is becoming difficult because he keeps coming back into your life then try travelling. Move to a new place for a year. Have new experiences, make new friends. You might even meet someone new who will treat you with the respect that anybody deserves in a relationship.
You cannot allow another person to treat you this way.
Just break away. Take care of yourself.
Yasmeen.
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Posted 02 August 2004 - 11:08 PM
You are attached to what we Americans call a "player." He gathers women and spends lots of time telling them about the other women in his love life. He collects women. You have been collected.
Change your phone number. Don't return his calls. Don't open your door.
Move if you are able. And one great idea is to call one of his other women to let the cat out of the bag. In the long run, you will feel much better about yourself.
If you have a cell phone, get the number changed. Alert all of your relatives not to have any conversations with this person. Communication must be brought to a screeching halt. Otherwise, you will continue to feel that somehow you can "win" his love. It won't happen. Sorry.
Good luck and let us know how things work out. This is a situation that calls for action on your part, not his. Play the player. It will feel great.
Change your phone number. Don't return his calls. Don't open your door.
Move if you are able. And one great idea is to call one of his other women to let the cat out of the bag. In the long run, you will feel much better about yourself.
If you have a cell phone, get the number changed. Alert all of your relatives not to have any conversations with this person. Communication must be brought to a screeching halt. Otherwise, you will continue to feel that somehow you can "win" his love. It won't happen. Sorry.
Good luck and let us know how things work out. This is a situation that calls for action on your part, not his. Play the player. It will feel great.
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