I feel lost and alone...as you can tell by my name. I have a weight problem and I have asthma, being over weight is not good for asthmatics. But thats not the problem here, sorry. I feel like everyone wants me to fit to their expectations, and standards. My mother wants me to lose weight, and do more things. My step-dad wants me to be more gurly, and I think Its just so I dont embarrase him. Seriously, I dont care! How can I tell them, that I want to be myself, and that I dont want to always be doing things, what they want to do. It really hurts me when my mother tells me that im going on a diet, because she sayed so. It makes me want to not live with her, go away, and not come back. I am so depressed, Its amazing. I have a weight problem, I always want to be alone, I cry alot now, and I cut myself also. These problems I dont need at age 15. I always seem to have an attitude, and getting in trouble because everything is my fault around here. When I say have an attitude, I meant...my mom tells me that I have one, when really its not me! Ill be having a good day, and shell make it something from hell. Please understand, I need help. I have probably posted more than 3 or 4 messages today, so maybe you could write me back. Anyone with advice, would be so helpfull. Thanks, Jessika.
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Posted 13 July 2004 - 11:44 PM
I feel lost and alone...as you can tell by my name. I have a weight problem and I have asthma, being over weight is not good for asthmatics. But thats not the problem here, sorry. I feel like everyone wants me to fit to their expectations, and standards. My mother wants me to lose weight, and do more things. My step-dad wants me to be more gurly, and I think Its just so I dont embarrase him. Seriously, I dont care! How can I tell them, that I want to be myself, and that I dont want to always be doing things, what they want to do. It really hurts me when my mother tells me that im going on a diet, because she sayed so. It makes me want to not live with her, go away, and not come back. I am so depressed, Its amazing. I have a weight problem, I always want to be alone, I cry alot now, and I cut myself also. These problems I dont need at age 15. I always seem to have an attitude, and getting in trouble because everything is my fault around here. When I say have an attitude, I meant...my mom tells me that I have one, when really its not me! Ill be having a good day, and shell make it something from hell. Please understand, I need help. I have probably posted more than 3 or 4 messages today, so maybe you could write me back. Anyone with advice, would be so helpfull. Thanks, Jessika.
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Posted 29 July 2004 - 05:03 PM
Dear Jessika,
I understand how you are feeling.
It really is not easy to go through what you are feeling.
I have been through similar pain in my life. I was not understood by my family and felt like there was no support around me, only criticism. There were a number of other things going on too and the result was that I too felt very lost, alone and confused. The pain was overwhelming and I too suffered from self-harm.
What helped me survive was channelling all my efforts into something constructive. it was very hard to do this with all the pain and confusion around me but one day at a time, one step at a time I was able to focus on something that helped me to build up my self-esteem eventually. The situation around me did not change. However, over time I became stronger. I became strong enough to deal with the problems around me without allowing them to destroy me.
I learnt to accept that it is not possible to change other people or to make them understand you. However if you are strong enough within yourself, you will not need their support or their criticisms.
Channel all your efforts into something constructive. It might be something that is a hobby for you right now. It might be a certain subject at school or sports or music or art or writing. Choose something you feel really passionate about. Choose something that you can see you can use in the future. Focus on it. Channel all your pain and anger and frustrations into it. Believe in it and build up that skill in yourself.
You will see that over time it will carry you through this difficult period and it will make you strong enough to deal with the pain in your life.
Sending you all my best wishes.
Love,
Yasmeen
I understand how you are feeling.
It really is not easy to go through what you are feeling.
I have been through similar pain in my life. I was not understood by my family and felt like there was no support around me, only criticism. There were a number of other things going on too and the result was that I too felt very lost, alone and confused. The pain was overwhelming and I too suffered from self-harm.
What helped me survive was channelling all my efforts into something constructive. it was very hard to do this with all the pain and confusion around me but one day at a time, one step at a time I was able to focus on something that helped me to build up my self-esteem eventually. The situation around me did not change. However, over time I became stronger. I became strong enough to deal with the problems around me without allowing them to destroy me.
I learnt to accept that it is not possible to change other people or to make them understand you. However if you are strong enough within yourself, you will not need their support or their criticisms.
Channel all your efforts into something constructive. It might be something that is a hobby for you right now. It might be a certain subject at school or sports or music or art or writing. Choose something you feel really passionate about. Choose something that you can see you can use in the future. Focus on it. Channel all your pain and anger and frustrations into it. Believe in it and build up that skill in yourself.
You will see that over time it will carry you through this difficult period and it will make you strong enough to deal with the pain in your life.
Sending you all my best wishes.
Love,
Yasmeen
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Posted 09 September 2004 - 09:41 AM
sounds like your mum is the one with the real problems...
try to see the differences between the problems that they have which cause them to say things, and the real problems.
everyone else went through stuff too, even your parents...
try to see the differences between the problems that they have which cause them to say things, and the real problems.
everyone else went through stuff too, even your parents...
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